Before you communicate, you need to choose whether or not it's appropriate for you to 'Share Yourself', or, 'Talk Logically' about something instead.  There are times for both forms of communication, and distinct uses for both.

       Imagine that it's early in the morning, and you're on your way to an important meeting.  You're a little tired, and you want to find the nearest coffee shop for a cup of something delicious to wake you up.

So, you ask a nearby stranger:  "Pardon me, where's the nearest coffee shop?"

       In this case, you probably want someone to 'Talk Logically' about how to get to the nearest coffee shop, rather than 'Sharing' their experience of getting to the nearest coffee shop.  After all, if they took their time describing to you what the coffee shop means to them, the experience of sipping a delicious latte, or how coffee makes them feel, you'd probably get pretty irritated!

       Let's face it, you only want to know one thing:  How do I get there?  How many lefts and how many rights do I have to take to get there, exactly?  Anything else is a waste of your time, you're in a rush!!

For example:  "Go down the block to Michigan Avenue, make a right, go three more blocks, and it'll be on your left behind the bus stop."

       Men are typically really good at this kind of efficient, literal communication.  Obviously getting directions is a simple example, and there are are other times this is useful too.

       The problem for most men is that they ONLY communicate in this way, even when it's a topic about which they should be 'Sharing Themselves' instead. Topics such as "Who are you?", "What do you do with your life?", "Why do you love me?", or even "Where is this relationship going?"...!

       'Sharing Yourself' is a mixture of a little logical data about something, and, a detailed description of your experience of that something.  Specifically:

Again, I'm really glad you asked.  Here's the quick version of the answer:

Single Women:   If you 'Share Yourself' too much or too deeply in inital meetings with men, you will often drive away those men who could otherwise be interested in you.  You need to hold back some of the experiential information in your conversations, and be a little more logical and brief.

       Otherwise, you're in danger of coming across like a needy or dependant person who's venting on a total stranger, from the man's perspective, since men don't bond that way...!

Single Men:   If you 'Talk Logically' about things when meeting women, you will usually come across as boring and unattractive.  If a woman feels no spark, she's just not going to be interested in you sexually, and she'll see you as 'Just A Friend'.

       Sometimes it's so bad it makes a first date seem like a job interview!  Rapidly asking and answering questions like "What do you do?", "Where are you from?", "How's your relationship with your parents?" and "What are you looking for?" will KILL most women's potential attraction for a man!!

Couples:   If you fail to 'Talk Logically' about logical problems like money or time (and try to 'Share Yourself' instead), or you fail to 'Share' emotional concerns and experiences like interpersonal issues and individual desires... you may end up losing your attraction for each other, or driving each other apart by frustration and continual misunderstanding...!

       The good news is that once you really understand how this works, I mean 'get it' at an intuitive, gut level, you can apply it in just about every social interaction you have.  For now, let's look at how you can apply it in a romantic context:

       In general, when two singles meet they should go through a couple different types of communication, in stages:

       They Flirt, Vibe and build Rapport, including physical intimacy:  holding hands, hugging and kissing, and in later dates foreplay and sex.  We discuss and demonstrate how to make and escalate physical contact in our Body Language & Contact seminar.

       If they're attracted to each other, and comfortable with each other (including physically), and have a strong sense of connection, then it's possible for them to have an amazing intimate relationship, and also amazing sex. We talk about all these things in our Romance & Seduction seminar.

       Once you're in a relationship, you need to keep an eye out for the types of communication you're having about various topics.  In general, make sure you're 'Talking Logically' about logical topics, and 'Sharing Yourself' about emotional topics.

       So, 'Talk Logically' about things like money and finances, or time and schedules.  Take all the emotion and 'Sharing' out of those conversations.  This will allow you to make effective decisions without frustration, blame or guilt, and without experience competitions for power or resources which can be deadly to any relationship.

       By contrast, make sure you 'Share' about how your day was, how you feel about certain other people, your life, and each other.  'Talking Logically' about those things is NOT sufficient for those types of conversations, and will leave people feeling misunderstood or even neglected.  

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