… There was a lot I was missing, back in those younger days when I was still figuring all this out, about what goes on in a woman’s mind. I was worried that she might be embarrassed if I kissed her in public… that she may not feel comfortable enough with me yet… that she may not like me enough yet (but that could actually change)… Who knew when I would have another chance a girl this gorgeous?
Fundamentals: On Being Present
On Being Cautious: A Cautionary Tale
Sunday, February 27th, 2011The Best Thing a Single Man Can Do on Valentine’s Day
Sunday, February 13th, 2011In seven syllables: “approach her and ask her out.”
Gents, and ladies, it’s shortly before Valentine’s Day as I write this. I will guarantee, with mathematical certainty, that…
Presence, and the Dangers of Being Outcome-Oriented
Monday, January 24th, 2011Too often, and especially when first meeting a woman, men are way too far inside their own heads. We spend way too much of our brain processing power thinking about “how is this interaction going” or “am I doing okay with her”, instead of actually just letting the interaction happen. The utter irony of this, of course, is that…
Happily Ever After
Wednesday, January 12th, 2011Another great quote about living in the moment:
“It is only possible to live happily-ever-after on a day-to-day basis.” ~Margaret Bonnano
Taking this idea further… It’s really on possible to live happily-ever-after on a moment-by-moment basis.
The Best Time of Your Life
Tuesday, January 11th, 2011Living in the PRESENT — in the NOW — is extremely attractive… Far more so than obsessing about the future or thinking about the past. This is true not only for life in general, but in every conversation you have.
“The other day a man asked me what I thought was the best time of life. ‘Why,’ I answered without a thought, ‘now.’ ” ~David Grayson
The Importance of Action
Thursday, January 6th, 2011Accept — then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it. Make it your friend and ally, not your enemy. This will miraculously transform your whole life.
– Coleman Osborne
What to Do When You Screw Up
Thursday, September 30th, 2010Have you ever had that situation happen to you? You know, the one where you are with someone you are really into, and you do something STUPID? You know, falling out of bed while trying to be seductive; pushing so hard she actually falls when you’re playing around; stuttering when you first meet her until you get your head together. I’ve heard this happen so often, and it always makes me laugh whenever I hear it. Guys get all flustered and red and ask why I’m laughing when they just messed everything up. But the reality is, it could have messed everything up, but more likely than that, it made the girl fall just a little bit more for them.
