1) Structure your approach to learning. Balance study with simulation, AND, real life experience.
2) Get REALLY clear on what it is you actually want, which may be different from what other people say is cool. Why are you even working on this area of your life?
3) Measure your progress. Measure it against the goals / outcomes that YOU want, not what someone else says is cool.
4) Bear in mind: Your brain cannot “not learn”, there are no failures, only learning experience.
5) Gather evidence and agreement for your success. Your own, and the opinions of supportive peers. Filter out all negative self-meaning or counter-evidence. Create a “success spiral”.
6) Master your emotions. Attraction is an emotion, as is arousal. Emotions are contagious, ergo, you should “Go first”.
7) Outer game: Learn about style, fashion, body language and hygiene. Find / create a style of dress and physical expression that works for YOU. Get a cologne / perfume that works for you. Smelling good is not optional. Brush your teeth, floss and use mouthwash. Shower. Trim hair and nails and look like you have enough self esteem to maintain an attractive appearance.
Go to the gym. Get in shape and stay there, and keep your natural hormones in balance. Sex hormones and pheromones impact attraction and arousal.
9) Eliminate all neediness, self-limiting beliefs, self doubt, destructive habits and disempowering frames. Replace them with empowering and useful ones. You might want to try The Landmark Forum for an inexpensive and decisive way to facilitate this part of the process.
10) Master your own life. Get control, get on your purpose and invite others along for the ride. Attraction, and relationship management, are both completely impacted by this.
Bonus #1) Get a coach, or a couple coaches. Whether they’re Pro dating coaches like we feature for The AskRomeo Academy, or highly effective natural friends, get yourself exposure to successful models from which to learn.
Live, and in person, is what’s best here… although phone coaching can be a great place to start. Talk to us about phone coaching if your interested.
Bonus #2) Get a wide social circle including many attractive members of the opposite sex. Go out for the purpose of making GREAT FRIENDS with lots of attractive people. Let them do referral marketing for you –send you they’re hot friends after having talked you up. Also you can learn a lot from them, about what your lovers will want in a relationship and what they won’t want.
Good luck!
-Jae Ellis
President & Founder, AskRomeo.com
romeo@askromeo.com
Toll Free: 1-877-30-ROMEO
July 10th, 2008 at 3:13 pm
The things that Jae teaches work and work very well! I’ve benefited from his insight and recommend ‘askromeo’ to anyone who’s interested!